Stepping down as an officer...

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  1. Siafu

    Siafu strength in numbers Tenacious Gamer Veteran Member

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    This is not a goodbye, I'm only stepping down to being a regular member, and there are a couple of good reasons why this has to happen now. Currently and for a while now I have been heavily involved with my mom, who was diagnosed with Dementia on April 24 of this year. As if that alone wasn't enough to tie up my time, just this past weekend, I was informed that my younger brother (who was for some time a recovered alcoholic and recovered drug addict) has succumbed to some pressure or stress and has returned once again to heavy drinking and drug use. I had not planned on another trip to the east coast until mid September but with my brother's need for help thrown in the mix, I'm going to make that flight a lot earlier than I had planned. Just the needs of these two family members is enough for you to understand what has driven me to make this decision. My family is in crises and they need my immediate and ongoing help, and help them I will to the width and depth of whatever it is going to take from me in time and energy.


    @Paradigm, the one thing that I've always known about myself is that there is always room for self-improvement and you have been an amazing role model for me along my personal journey to becoming a better man. You were the one who extended the invitation for me to become a Tenacious family member, for this and so much more you will have my eternal gratitude. /salute


    @Averie and @LoanWolf, I don't give a damn that we're not blood related, you are also my family and I dearly love you both. Thank you for understanding this. I'll be back and around the forums when time permits. Gamer's Night - August 10th, at the end of the evening's festivities (which I plan on attending) I would ask you to demote me to regular member status. I was promoted to Epic Officer on a Gamer's Night four years ago, and I thought it rather cool, to relinquish my chair at the end of this upcoming Gamer's Night. Hugs-N-Squeezes!


    Fellow Officers:


    There are too many of you now to list individual names, so this goes to ALL of my fellow officers. I'll be forever grateful that we had the opportunity to work together. You have all inspired me in so many ways, that positive inspiration I carry with me now and I will use it to the best of my abilities to help my family. Thank you all for your supportive friendships over these years, much love to you all.


    Tenacious Members:


    I loved being an officer and helping to find solutions with others to better the future of Tenacious, so that you could feel safe here, meet others in a wholesome environment and have lots of fun. I hope to share more time with you, just as soon as I can.


    Epic Officers - newly appointed or future officers:


    I have given this a great deal of thought regarding the new Epic officers who will be announced on Gamers Night, what could I tell you that will be helpful for you to know. So, before I step away from being an officer in Tenacious, I would like to impart this to you...


    Imagine for a moment that the membership or whole of Tenacious is a real heart and this ever-beating heart is kept healthy and grows bigger every day - by way of competent doctors who are in charge of its care. As a new officer, you may ask, "What kind of 'care' does the beating heart of Tenacious require?" Well, sometimes what is needed is a simple Band-Aid to smooth over a scrape or minor cut, while at other times it may require a monitor to resolve a blood pressure or pulse issue. But there are times (like when new technologies come along) where we all participated in "Discord" microscopic inspections to make sure that this new heart value was good for the whole of our community and would work properly. Whatever the need of this communities heart is, that need is met with passion and resolve that to the best of our abilities we as individuals will do no harm and nothing we surgically implement as a team shall irrevocably harm (our community) the beating heart of Tenacious. So, to hold a title of Epic or above (simply stated) means that you are now among-st some of the finest heart surgeons in the gaming community world.


    The sun rises and sets at some point on everyone's journey as an officer but it's not the duration of your participation that is important, it's the quality of your participation. By "quality" I mean participating in officer conversations, by getting there before a deadline and voting, by smiling and agreeing to disagree, by pulling back your suggestion to lift up someone else's idea that works better, all of this and them some is how you take the uniquely beautiful quality of your own beating heart and participate in an issue to find the best possible solution. The solution (derived from the team of passionate heart surgeons) then becomes a graph onto the vigorous and strong beating heart of this community. The graphs we apply promote growth. And then after the graph-surgery, you get to step back and see how wonderfully the solution worked. This is when you and your fellow officers realize that you have just done something that is awe-inspiring and extraordinary.


    :DI wish you all of the awe-inspiring and extraordinary experiences for your journey as an officer that I experienced on my journey.:D


    Sincerely,



    Siafu - a proud officer of Tenacious.
     
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  2. Vrico

    Vrico Tenacious Gamer

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    Thanks for your service Siafu. You're making the right decisions to put first things first and take care of your family. I wish you and your family the best.
     
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  3. AmazonCheesecake

    AmazonCheesecake "Hare Today, Gone Tomorrow" Legendary Gamer ArcheAge Unchained Chapter Lead Veteran Member

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    We love you, Siafu. Your compassion and drive to help those around is what makes you such an amazing officer and family member in Tenacious. :heart:

    We are always here to help you however we can, even if it is to lend a shoulder, or an ear.

    I know this has been and will be a difficult time for you. My thoughts are with you and your family, and that you may find resolve and peace together.
     
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    Averie Averie#1956 - Add me! Website Administrator Mythic Gamer Veteran Member

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    Awh, Siafu..

    Your decision to step down saddens me but I understand. I really hope this isnt a permanent goodbye and we meet up again in the future. I know what its like trying to be the strong one for a family seemingly destined to fall apart. I know how taxing that role can be... Don't forget to take time for yourself as well, you are not invincible.

    You have such a kind heart. Your mom and brother are lucky to have you :heart:

    The pictures you sent me of you and your mom are adorable. There's so much love there. I lost my mom 4 months ago and.. I think it's hard for anyone to feel like they did everything possible for their mother. The woman gave you life and how do you really repay that? ... So somewhere down the line we're left feeling like, what more could I have done to help? ...

    It sounds to me like you are doing everything possible for her. You're an amazing loving son. I really admire your dedication, cherishing your time together and putting her first.

    ... Sorry for getting a bit dark, but I feel like I need you to know these things.

    On a lighter note, your take on being a community officer is insightful and I enjoyed reading it :) I think you explained it very well. Everyone brings their own talents, ideas and perspectives to the table and we always make the best decisions when we are able to find the middle ground between them all. It takes a dedicated team of specialists :) ...

    Much love to you darling,
    Please keep in touch.
    If I don't hear from you for awhile you can expect a text... :heart:
     
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  5. Namru

    Namru Instigator Legendary Gamer Veteran Member

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    It has been great working alongside you, Siafu! I'm sorry to hear about the issues going on, but you know we all understand the importance of family first and are here if you need anything at all.

    I know every response above mine has said this - but it is still worth saying again - you are one of the nicest and most compassionate people I could have hoped to have here with us as an officer - Tenacious is definitely enriched for having you in it in any capacity.

    I wish you all the best at home, and I'll see you around in the community =)
     
  6. Mishi

    Mishi Tenacious Gamer Epic Gamer ArcheAge Unchained Heroic Gamer

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    @Siafu
    Thank you for everything you've done. I am sad to hear about everything happening, however, I am glad to see you're going to help your family. Sometimes it's something we have to do, no matter how much pain or stress it brings.
    Just don't forget your Tenacious family will be right here, waiting for you when you get time to pop in and say hello.
    Thank you again for helping perform heart surgery.

    P.S.
    See ya back here in the future.
     
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    Ledmojo Dragon with no fire Website Administrator Legendary Gamer WoW: Classic Officer Veteran Member

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    Siafu,

    I dont know you as much as others on a personal level, but I will say that I will miss your positivity and lightheartedness. Your posts are always a pleasure to read and your insights are always admired. Good luck out there! Much respect to you.
     
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    Xia_Simi Tenacious Gamer Epic Gamer Black Desert Officer Veteran Member

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    We will surely miss having you around as an officer! Safe travels, and don't forget to take care of yourself while you are taking care of everyone else ♥
     
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